Sad But True Stories of a Struggling Blogger



At the risk of sounding jaded, I’ll start by saying that I was blogging back around 2000 when the diarists ruled the blogosphere. I think that back then it was easier to see that bloggers are real authors telling a story for their readers. Sometimes I’m writing an autobiography and sometimes it’s journalism, but my intent is to reach my readers and communicate my truth. It’s ironic that more bloggers are being paid to write, while the notion that blogging is literature has become uncommon. Just as your favourite magazine got thinner over the years, the number of blogs producing content of literary value dwindled. Paid or not, are we writing autobiographies, articles, fiction…or just elaborate ad copy?

I’ve paid my dues as a writer in terms of time in the field. I’ve had three failed blogs before this one. The first was moderately successful. It was anonymous, very candid and deeply personal. I was an undergrad at time. It read like a soap opera. It relied heavily on being controversial and salacious. When I bought this domain I was hoping to copy the success of that first blog, but I’m fifteen years older and a Mom. I was, and still am, a little afraid that Mommy-blogging will never have such reach. That brings me to my point which is that bloggers, like all authors, struggle with integrity. In fact, bloggers and other self-published authors grapple with integrity more intensely than traditional authors. The temptation to trade values for money is greater and the decision rests solely on their shoulders.

Sad But True Stories of a Struggling Blogger

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How can a Mommy blogger produce creative content? Some might think that the drudgery of motherhood might dampen our creativity, but it’s just the opposite. First, we need an outlet. After the twentieth rendition of Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star most of us would give our right arm to write, paint, dance, or even have an adult conversation. Second, we are the captive audience of the most glorious and most terrible creative force on Earth. Bored children. If their antics weren’t enough material for our creative work we would still be powerhouses of ideas. Homemaking is creative. Entertaining, teaching and nurturing a family requires our creativity. Finding ourselves in the mess takes a lot of imagination, too.

There are so many Mommy bloggers. Whether or not you identity as a homemaker, taking care of kids does something to a person. I think that raising kids makes us feels like we need to band together and the internet is one of the big ways that people reach out. Being a mother feels lonely and we need a community of other mothers, not just for companionship, but to make our voices louder in the world. The world needs to hear our stories because they are about suffering, sacrifice, unconditional love, and hope – all things that the world must hear right now.

I founded The Zelie Group, a collaboration between a handful of Catholic Mommy bloggers, because blogging is lonely. The bloggers in support groups swapped likes and shares, but they always seemed detached and irritable. The groups were milling with activity, but I couldn’t imagine finding a friend, someone who cared about my life and my blog. One of the first tips that authors will give is that you should find a writer friend or a group of friends that you can trust and support each other. As bloggers we need to do that better. If you are a Catholic Mommy blogger and you would like to join us in blogging and friendship inquire by messaging us on the Facebook page.


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3 thoughts on “Sad But True Stories of a Struggling Blogger

  1. I am a Mommy Blogger and I feel like a small fish in a big pond. As I sit her day after day and try to turn it into a business and blog others would want to visit. So I have came to the conclusion that it doesn’t matter if no, one ever visits my site I am going to write for me and my family. As well as to keep my Sanity as I am home most days by myself with no, one to talk to. So on the blog I can talk and talk and talk and if I want to answer myself. So keep doing what your doing as you inspire so many others. If I was a Catholic I would join the group. But I have managed to find a few friends online that I would be lost without. So to them and you Happy New Year thank you for being here.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words, Glenda! I just love hearing from other mom bloggers. I’m so glad that you keep blogging for your own enjoyment. I think it’s always important that bloggers enjoy what they are doing and do it for the right reasons, whether their blogs are big or small.

  2. Love this Kerry! I’ve felt the struggle to authenticly convey who I am in blogging. I have never felt like “just a mom” but I’m not sure the mom blogging world cares to read about the ballet/theater part of me and vise versa. It’s a constant balancing act that I’m still getting the hang of walking.

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