I’ve paid my dues as a writer in terms of time in the field. I’ve had three failed blogs before this one. The first was moderately successful. It was anonymous, very candid and deeply personal. I was an undergrad at time. It read like a soap opera. It relied heavily on being controversial and salacious. When I bought this domain I was hoping to copy the success of that first blog, but I’m fifteen years older and a Mom. I was, and still am, a little afraid that Mommy-blogging will never have such reach. That brings me to my point which is that bloggers, like all authors, struggle with integrity. In fact, bloggers and other self-published authors grapple with integrity more intensely than traditional authors. The temptation to trade values for money is greater and the decision rests solely on their shoulders.
How can a Mommy blogger produce creative content? Some might think that the drudgery of motherhood might dampen our creativity, but it’s just the opposite. First, we need an outlet. After the twentieth rendition of Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star most of us would give our right arm to write, paint, dance, or even have an adult conversation. Second, we are the captive audience of the most glorious and most terrible creative force on Earth. Bored children. If their antics weren’t enough material for our creative work we would still be powerhouses of ideas. Homemaking is creative. Entertaining, teaching and nurturing a family requires our creativity. Finding ourselves in the mess takes a lot of imagination, too.
There are so many Mommy bloggers. Whether or not you identity as a homemaker, taking care of kids does something to a person. I think that raising kids makes us feels like we need to band together and the internet is one of the big ways that people reach out. Being a mother feels lonely and we need a community of other mothers, not just for companionship, but to make our voices louder in the world. The world needs to hear our stories because they are about suffering, sacrifice, unconditional love, and hope – all things that the world must hear right now.
I founded The Zelie Group, a collaboration between a handful of Catholic Mommy bloggers, because blogging is lonely. The bloggers in support groups swapped likes and shares, but they always seemed detached and irritable. The groups were milling with activity, but I couldn’t imagine finding a friend, someone who cared about my life and my blog. One of the first tips that authors will give is that you should find a writer friend or a group of friends that you can trust and support each other. As bloggers we need to do that better. If you are a Catholic Mommy blogger and you would like to join us in blogging and friendship inquire by messaging us on the Facebook page.